” and “You’re gorgeous, I’d love to chat.” If you want to get her attention, try doing something a bit more personal.

One girl we spoke to told a story about a guy who sent her a hilarious quote from the movie she had mentioned in her profile.

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By the time your date comes around, she’ll already have lost interest or have found someone more attentive.

If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.

Stick to neutral subjects — like mentioning a common ground you share based on something you read in her profile.

[pagebreak] INSECURE ONLINE DATERThe scenario: “It’s so annoying and a major turn-off whenever a guy has something in his profile like ‘still not sure about online dating but...’” — Randi, 25 The problem..the solution: We get it.

Pick something specific she wrote about herself, and ask her a follow-up about it.

If nothing else, she’ll admire the fact that you took the time to “get to know” her.

’” — Kristen, 27 The problem..the solution: Aside from the obvious inappropriate nature of the comment to a complete stranger, men should never mention their physical characteristics or their own body parts in an introductory message.