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The first time I knowingly slept with someone with HIV I was 23.
The boy was 20 and he told me drunk on the night bus home.
Because the way to fight HIV isn’t separately, it’s together.
HIV Blind Date is on Thursday 21 January at the Queen’s Head, 25 Tyron Street, SW3 3LG.
I could deal with the drugs and the escorting - working on the Soho gay scene I was never very far from either - but the virus was one small step for man, one giant leap for my mind.
In the past six years I’ve learnt a lot more about HIV, and dated two positive guys. Cute and I were drunk when he started talking about an abusive ex-relationship.
“And he gave me HIV,” he dropped into the tequila-laced conversation.
I was shocked because we’d been friends before dating, and had been in many situations where HIV had been a prominent conversation topic.
Like those guys who repress their sexuality for the ‘straight’ life of wife, kids and IKEA flat-packs, it can’t be healthy to imprison such a storm.
“Closely-imprisoned forces render and destroy”, is the quote from Charles Dickens I learnt in sixth form. Unfortunately, there are powerful reasons why a guy might keep his diagnosis private.
He fitted an ignorant man’s HIV stereotype: he was a ketamine-sniffing rentboy, living with a sugar daddy in West Hampstead.
When I asked him how he paid the rent, he snorted and replied: “My ass.” He was also one of the nicest people I’ve ever met.
Clearly what that boogie man needed was a group of fabulous activists from Act Up London to storm in, grab it by its ass and shove it into a light entertainment format that’s gonna vajazzle the stigma right out of its shadow. It’s a theatre show designed to share stories of love, dating and relationships with HIV.