Certainly factors like constant travel for competition, rigorous training schedules and intense anxiety brought on by competition could pose challenges to sexual satisfaction.These factors are unlikely to affect those of us who are not professional athletes and it seems like the Olympic athletes did just fine despite these issues!

The feature article was called, “Sex, Stress & Superhero Fantasies,” and you can find it online here (it starts on page 40).

It’s all about how stress can affect your sex life, and vice versa.

For example, Hannan, Majo, Komolova & Adams (2008) found that physical inactivity “negatively impacts erectile function, and clinical exercise, such as running, has been shown to improve sexual responses.” What about benefits for those of us who aren’t concerned with erections?

“Exercise frequency and physical fitness enhance attractiveness and increase energy levels, both of which make people feel better about themselves…

When considering intimacy strategies, one size doesn’t fit all. What weekly or nightly agreement do you want to make? For her, motherhood inspires greater sexual freedom, and sex feels more precious.

Liz and Mike, parents of a 15-month-old in San Diego, consider reduced time together a challenge.

If intimacy depends on teamwork, how do we cultivate it together? Reversing our sexual roles supports innovation and prevents role resentment, as in “I’m sick of always asking for sex! Send your spouse an email about what turns you on about her. Too often we try to unite sexually with spouses while disconnected from ourselves. Despite changing gender roles, moms still perform at least twice the amount of housework and child care as dads.

” Trying new things together — sexual or otherwise — inspires closeness. When sex evades us, we presume we need a big remedy: hours together, weekend getaways. Slip a note into his pocket detailing a steamy memory before kids entered the picture. Nurturing your sensuality is foreplay to intimacy with your beloved. What sensual delights will you try in the next few days? The 2008 National Survey of Marital Strengths reports that the number-one factor differentiating happy from unhappy couples with kids is their satisfaction with how child rearing is shared.

They one-up each other with creative ways to get intimate. One of the biggest losses of parenthood is spontaneity, sexual and otherwise.

In other words, parenthood offers sexual opportunities if we look for them. Yet with so few moments together, unless we schedule connection, we defer sex and expand distance between us. Never underrate the power of kissing deeply and touching suggestively, or the value of a quickie to reignite your sex life or, at the very least, remind you of what you miss about each other and yourself.

Moreover, those who feel better about themselves may perceive they are more sexually desirable and may perform better sexually.” (Penhollow & Young, 2004). Exercise improves overall health and makes us feel better about ourselves which is a great recipe for a satisfying sex life.